“It is such a lousy day! It rained the moment I alighted from the bus and got caught in the rain. Why does it always rain when I don’t bring my umbrella?
As I was walking to the office in the rain, a bird pooped on my head.
ARGHH!!! This is the worst day of my life!”
“It was a rainy day and I got drenched because I had not brought an umbrella. I can do better by bringing an umbrella wherever I go.”
Both statements are from the same person. Which statement would you rather hear?
I can read your mind. It is the second statement because it is more uplifting. Who likes hearing to complaints? How you view things make a huge difference in how you speak and act.
Why be so upset when you can change the situation by simply bringing an umbrella the next day? Thankfully, there are ways you can think, speak and become more positive in life.
#1 Be aware
The first step to improve almost anything is to be aware of the issue. How can you be aware of negative thoughts, speech and actions?
Wear a rubber band on your wrist as a bracelet. Whenever you catch yourself entertaining negative thoughts before they become actions, pull the rubber band and release it.
#2 Be specific about your mistake
Instead of using general words such as “always” and “never” in front of a negative statement, be specific to that incident.
Instead of saying “Why does it always rain when I don’t bring my umbrella?” change it to “I can do better by bringing an umbrella wherever I go.” Notice that the solution of bringing an umbrella out is specific?
Start being specific. It is only after being specific that you become aware of the issue and thus able think of solutions. Problem solving is a critical skill at work after all!
#3 Own your mistake and be open to share
Admitting your mistake can be difficult in front of a group of people. Admitting your mistake may cause you to lose some face, but it is really beneficial in the long run. Your superiors will trust you more.
After you have owned your mistake, you need to be responsible of rectifying it. Go solve the problem yourself or with a team (if you need help).
On the bright side, you learn and grow. You will also help to foster a positive and trusting work culture!
So stop sulking and start seeing the good things in “unfortunate” incidents. You will emerge happier, stronger and become more successful.
Share how positive thinking, speech and actions have helped you in the comments below.