You may have heard your colleague sigh that there is not one person who appreciates her. Not feeling appreciated can result in low morale, not wanting to take initiative in leading or improve things at work.
Are you appreciated at work? When was the last time you felt appreciated at work?
Maybe it is not true that you have not been thanked and recognized. Our colleagues and superiors may show their thankfulness is subtle ways.
Inspired by the Five Love Languages, Dr. White saw the need for love languages in the workplace. He then introduced “Five Languages of Appreciation” because we don’t normally think our colleagues loving us – but we have a deeper need to feel someone cares about us.
Find out what the 5 love languages are.
Let’s explore what the 5 languages of appreciation are and how we can use them.
#1 Words of affirmation
Getting praised or thanked in words fall under this language. It could come in the form of a text, email, or face-to-face conversation.
If you do not have the habit of thanking your colleagues for all that they have helped you with, start today!
You can simply say “Thank you!” or let them know how helpful they have been. Ask if they have a minute for you first! You would not want to hold them back from their next meeting.
Sending an email or a message is better if they are busy. Here are 2 examples:
To your manager: “Sir, thank you very much for guiding me in this process. Without your guidance, I wouldn’t be able to do the work.”
To your colleague: “Hey, thank you for helping me with this presentation. You are very kind and smart. I learned a lot from you and I really love working with you.”
#2 Acts of service
There are some office tasks that no one likes doing. Doing them for your colleagues is a powerful way to show your appreciation.
Arranging the files and documents on your manager’s desk or in the store room, helping a colleague with data entry that’s boring and laborious, and filing expense reports are great ways to show that you care for them.
#3 Physical touch
Do not hold the hands of your colleagues just because you read our previous article. They are not your boyfriend or girlfriend!
You can hi 5 your colleagues to celebrate for them. You can pat them on their back for a great job done.
You can exchange hugs to welcome and console them (just make sure that you only hug someone of the same gender).
#4 Receiving gifts
Who doesn’t like receiving gifts? Gifts can come in the form of presents, souvenirs, snacks or food.
You do not have to get anything special. You can bring snacks or food into office and share it with your colleagues. You can even bring a small potted flower or plant for your colleagues. The plants will help improve the environment in your office, improving morale too!
#5 Quality time
Some people prefer to have meaningful conversation when there are less people around. If this is your colleague’s primary language, give him/her some of your time. It means a lot to them.
You may consider having lunch or coffee with this colleague. The both of you could also meet up after work. Who knows? The both of you may become best of buddies.
Change starts with you! By caring and showing your appreciation, your office will become a better place. Everyone will be happier and helpful.
Who are your close colleagues at work? How do they like to be appreciated?
Share this post to your colleagues to find out how they want to be appreciated and cared for.