If your partner has recently moved away, or if you have met the love of your life while traveling, we know how you feel.
You are probably wondering if the relationship should continue. The most common answer we get from our family and friends is “No! Long-distance relationships (LDR) do not work out!”
We totally understand their perspective. Being in a LDR for over 3 years, we believe that it can work. Let us share 5 useful tips which have worked wonderfully for us.
#1 Find the best time to communicate
Depending on where the both of you are, find out the best time to chat. If your relationship is relatively new, you’ll need some time to figure it out.
It can be difficult to commit to a fixed time especially if there is a big time difference or when an emergency arises. However, try your best to set aside time for a call every week. It doesn’t matter if you can only call on Sunday mornings – just making that time for each other is the key thing here.
#2 Find the best channel to stay in touch
After agreeing on the timing, discuss to find the right channel of communication. Thanks to the advancement in technology, you won’t have to spend a lot of money to make an overseas call. Just remember to charge your phone or tablet before the call.
Be comfortable with the messaging and calling app you use.
#3 Do not avoid quarreling
While in any relationship, it is easy to ignore concerns. This is especially so in a LDR since you will only be with your partner for a short few days.
Avoiding fights and staying away from arguments can be damaging in the long run. The more you talk about things that bother you before they become huge obstacles in your relationship, the better.
How? That’s coming up on the next tip.
#4 Talk it out
Face-to-face meetings and video calls are the best ways to resolve any concerns.
In any disagreement, please don’t rush to post your thoughts on social media. Social media isn’t the appropriate platform to blurt out your raw feelings and thoughts. Cool down. Go take a walk or sleep. Once the both of you have calmed down, talk.
Always be open and honest about your feelings. There is no need to play games and cause the other party to read between the lines, opening up the possibility of a great misunderstanding.
#5 Look at the bright side
This doesn’t mean that you need to be optimistic all the time! Rather, discover the pros of a LDR brings.
You will be leading a very much independent life, and if you are a workaholic like me, you have the freedom to do what you need to. Need the time and space to set up a business for side income? No problem!
You may have figured out that the secret to making any LDR work is maturity. With maturity comes discipline and thoughtfulness.
With that, go chase your happiness!
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